it infuriates me when people tell me “lifes too short to not forgive people!” like NO lifes too short for me to continually allow abusive and manipulative behavior in my life and live in a constant state of anxiety bc I want to be “nice” or whatever
Yes but forgiveness doesn’t mean they even have to be in your life. You can still stand up for yourself, set boundaries and/or never talk to the person again because that is what is good for you. But that doesn’t mean you can’t forgive them. Forgiving them means you can do all of that and not be miserable from what they did to you. It’s about moving forward, not whether they are still in your life or not.